For Women Over 55 Life Can be Loopy - So Begin Again
Are you experiencing mind loops? Does your life feel loopy?
Yes. Life can be loopy, and solutions are available to deal with the loops and live your best life with intention, purpose, passion, and joy.
Summary: In this post, you explore how life often loops—old thought patterns, routines, habits and internalized beliefs can keep women 55+ stuck in cycles that feel familiar but limiting. You invite readers to recognize those loops, pause the automatic replay, and begin again with intention, curiosity and clarity. The focus is on stepping out of the loop, choosing new responses, and opening up a fresh chapter that honours experience while embracing change.
A Preamble - Life Can Be Loopy - So Begin Again
A bit of history …
I started this blog several years ago. I was excited to learn how to create a site and a blog on Squarespace. I wrote over 100 posts and used my photos to set the tone for my words.
I wasn’t getting any response. I didn’t know very much about SEO. More importantly, I wasn’t confident that what I was writing about could be helpful to anyone. I think I was wrong about that.
Also, my life turned chaotic as I decided to move across the country from British Columbia to Nova Scotia.
Fast-forward to 2022. I am now settled in my new province and town. I decided to revise and redesign my site, so I took an online course about Squarespace design. I loved learning, being in the creative stream, and doing the work.
After the site was mainly designed, I wrote three blog posts and designed exercises to accompany them. I had fun making adjustments and making things pretty. And I launched—to a total of one friend.
Her response was less than I expected, and my confidence was shaken. I went into what my default position is. I retreated into a safe space of doing nothing, allowing the mind loops to play repeatedly. Thoughts such as:
I can’t do this.
Asking for donations is pathetic.
I am not creative.
I have nothing important to share.
Who would want to read what I wrote?
My colours are wrong.
I am not the teacher I think I am.
I have no value to add to this world.
No one needs my help.
I am not following the SEO, blogging, and site-building rules.
Blah! Blah! Blah!
I am sure there were many more thoughts along these lines. These mind loops led to feelings of unhappiness, indecision, and a state of spinning my wheels.
Her response was less than I expected, and my confidence was shaken. I went into what my default position is. I retreated into a safe space of doing nothing, allowing the mind loops to play repeatedly.
These mind loops led to feelings of unhappiness, indecision, and a state of spinning my wheels.
There Came a Turning Point - Ladders Appeared
Every once in a while, I would check out my site, and I liked it.
And … I went on to do other things—confidence-building things. I started taking Tai Chi and a seniors’ exercise class. I got out and explored my new community. I decided to make new friends and disengage from friends who didn’t make me feel good about myself.
I started to believe in myself and my worth. And I kept revisiting my site.
Every once in a while, I would check out my site, and I liked it.
I started to believe in myself and my worth. And I kept revisiting my site.
And … Now I Begin Again
I have considered who I am and what I want for Loop See Ladder. I want a beautiful, simple site that is pleasing to the eye, free of pop-ups and ads. I want people on my site to feel comfortable exploring and seeing a bit of themselves in my writing.
I want to inspire people with my words, the pictures I choose, my offerings, and the site itself. I want people to leave my site feeling better, with a sense of a call to action to improve their lives, so that they can take the next step up the ladder out of the hell of their mind loops.
I won’t follow all blogging rules—I am a rebel in some ways—but I intend to be of service. As I get back into this practice of writing and creating, I plan to let each blog go and trust that the people who need to see it will. I know that all is well as it is.
I want to inspire people with my words, the pictures I choose, my offerings, and the site itself. I want people to leave my site feeling better, with a sense of a call to action to improve their lives, so that they can take the next step up the ladder out of the hell of their mind loops.
A Challenge for You:
Take a look at a mind loop that is driving you crazy. Draw it or act it out. You could write a journal about it or create a rap. Please find a way to make light of it because it is only a mind loop. It is not who you are. Please give it some space so you can see it for what it is.
Then, allow your gaze to widen to find a step out of it. The action does not have to be huge. And know that after that step, another step will appear. And know that you can get out of this situation. Just take as long as it takes. Be patient with yourself. You are an evolving, growing being. Enjoy the journey.
FAQ
Q: What does it mean when life “can be loopy”?
A: It refers to the repetitive cycles many of us fall into—thinking the same thoughts, reacting in the same ways, staying in patterns of comfort or avoidance—even when we desire change. This looping can limit growth and keep us from new possibilities.
Q: Why is this especially relevant for women over 55?
A: This life-stage often brings major transitions—changes in roles, health, identity, relationships, and purpose. With change comes the chance to break old loops and begin again. Because you’ve lived long enough to recognize patterns, you also have the power to redirect them.
Q: How do I know if I’m in a loop?
A: Some signs include:
Feeling like your days or decisions keep repeating in familiar ways.
Noticing frustration, boredom, or “should-doing” instead of full engagement.
Recognizing limiting beliefs resurfacing (“It’s too late”, “I’ve always done it this way”).
Avoiding change because it seems too risky or uncomfortable.
Q: What does “begin again” look like in practical terms?
A: It means:
Pause — notice your loop, bring awareness to your patterns.
Choose — decide consciously how you want to respond or live instead.
Act — even a small step outside the loop matters (try something new, say “yes” differently, change a habit).
Reflect — check in: how did it feel to break the loop? What did you learn?
Adjust & repeat — keep iterating, shifting from automatic to conscious living.
Q: What outcomes can I expect if I step out of these loops and begin again?
A: While everyone’s journey is unique, you may notice: greater freedom in your choices, more alignment between your daily life and what you genuinely value, a stronger sense of purpose, more presence and joy, and a feeling that you’re living rather than just leaning into habit or the past.
👉 I thoughtfully use AI tools to polish my writing, but every story comes from my lived experience.
